Lincoln Park Teen Sues Parents
And how does not paying for her to finish high school improve her sisters' lives? If the decision to not pay for her to finish high school,had any connection to anything positive, I can see it. But it doesn't. It helps no one and only hurts the teen.
Growing up, I had a sister who was rebellious, ran away constantly, and generally made home life extremely difficult. My parents would probably tell you they regret not throwing her out sooner for the good of the rest of us. These decisions are not made in a vacuum, and sometimes a child's behavior actually affects others to the point that her best interests may not be the only focus.
Meanwhile: I, the dutiful child, still paid my way for college. That is not an entitlement, period.
Meanwhile: I, the dutiful child, still paid my way for college. That is not an entitlement, period.
By the way--I have a JD. My sister doesn't even have a GED. It happens. Guess what I got when she left of her own accord? PEACE.
dobler88 said:
By the way--I have a JD. My sister doesn't even have a GED. It happens. Guess what I got when she left of her own accord? PEACE.
dobler88 said:
By the way--I have a JD. My sister doesn't even have a GED. It happens. Guess what I got when she left of her own accord? PEACE.
The girl in this thread is a honor student with several college acceptances and a $20k scholarship, I have read.
It seems like she can have a bright future ahead of her.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2572711/Father-spoiled-high-school-cheerleader-18-suing-parents-claims-daughter-ran-away-believed-better-own.html
Believe me, I know about sisters that destroy a household. First hand. And, yes, the house would have been more peaceful without her. But, even she didn't deserve to be thrown out and, if she were, making it hard for her to finish high school would have been a burden down the road for all of us.
con,
You are confusing a moral issue with a legal issue. The "child" is the one who chose to involve the legal system in what otherwise might have been a simple family matter. Now she has to live with the consequences of her own actions. She gambled and lost.
And incidentally, the school has said they are not going to dismiss her for failure to pay tuition, so why that was even included in the suit, is a puzzle to me.
You are confusing a moral issue with a legal issue. The "child" is the one who chose to involve the legal system in what otherwise might have been a simple family matter. Now she has to live with the consequences of her own actions. She gambled and lost.
And incidentally, the school has said they are not going to dismiss her for failure to pay tuition, so why that was even included in the suit, is a puzzle to me.
It seems like it's included because she thinks it bolsters her case. "You're terrible parents, even my school says so!"
No, I am not really even considering or entertaining the legal part. That part is silly. My posts are about the moral part.
Mar 4, 2014 at 3:31pm Edited
I think the big part of the problem is her friends father, possible parents. I don't fault them for taking her in but I feel they helped fuel this entitlement. If he wins he wants the parents to pay legal fees. I don't believe the lawsuit was her idea. As a parent he should have encouraged mediation and pushed for counseling. Instead he helps fund a lawsuit. Why would she want to go home or go to counseling, seems she is very comfortable where she is.
Although I agree they should pay for the last year of high school, they are not obligated. I have a feeling that they would pay if she did not feel so entitled. I am also sure knowing the school will not kick her out helps them stick to that decision.
Although I agree they should pay for the last year of high school, they are not obligated. I have a feeling that they would pay if she did not feel so entitled. I am also sure knowing the school will not kick her out helps them stick to that decision.
Her father, the school says, has a contract with them. I suppose thatmeans that the school will allow the student to finish the year and graduate and also that her father honor the contract.
conandrob240 said:
No, I am not really even considering or entertaining the legal part. That part is silly. My posts are about the moral part.
The name of the thread is "Lincoln Park Teen Sues Parents"
Mar 4, 2014 at 5:47pm Edited
LOST said:
If the parents enrolled her in a private school aren't they responsible to the school for her tuition until the end of the semester? If so shouldn't the school be the one to sue? If not has the school threatened to expel her? On the other hand what prevents her from finishing up at the public high school?
Tjohn is right. There is a story behind the story.
Not that it means much in the grand scheme of The True Story of the Cannings' Life and Times; but, the young woman departed the premises in late October.mapletree said:
[Prior blockquote omitted] And so far the story seems to be the company she keeps starting with her boyfriend. That does not mean she keeps bad company. It means, at this point, that the parents put their foot down the minute she turned 18, she refused, packed and moved in with the family of a friend.
TomR
The e-mails posted above bear a signature in the lower left of each page of New Jersey Superior Court.gonets said:
How did that email become public? The girl sounds like a brat, but if the parents released it, their behavior is pretty tacky too.
TomR
conandrob240 said:
Yes, of course there is public school. I had a great education there. that's not really the point. The kid is in the middle of her senior year and has been at this school all that time. It is silly and mean for her parents to cut off tuition to this school. They sound like a bunch of babies. She is a teenage girl. She may often have boyfriends you don't like, maybe even a few that suck. Oh, well that's life. You deal. You don't cut off her basic education because she's rude to Mom or has a boyfriend you don't like. Again, I can't think of anything she could do to warrant stopping paying the completion of her high school education. Spiteful and short-sighted. Even if the kid is 100% wrong. College is a different story.
Oldstone, you made your own way, and that's quite different from suing your parents.
Since the school and the father (or both parents) have a contract, they'll have to pay the tuition eventually, right? I don't see that the parents can claim that the kid owes the school.
Disrespect can be a good enough reason for kicking a kid out, depending on circumstances. Dating the wrong boy? That falls under choosing your battles carefully. The parents can't win this one, and the harder they try, the more likely it is to backfire.
Child support? No, and I'm glad the court denied it. I hope it serves as an example to other 18-year-olds who think they're so entitled.
Disrespect can be a good enough reason for kicking a kid out, depending on circumstances. Dating the wrong boy? That falls under choosing your battles carefully. The parents can't win this one, and the harder they try, the more likely it is to backfire.
Child support? No, and I'm glad the court denied it. I hope it serves as an example to other 18-year-olds who think they're so entitled.
Yeah, the school has already said they'll let her finish the year and worry about tuition later.mapletree said:
Her father, the school says, has a contract with them. I suppose thatmeans that the school will allow the student to finish the year and graduate and also that her father honor the contract.
mbaldwin said:
BTW, the school has suspended her twice, so she's no angel.
Stone her. She's probably a harlot.
I think that what mbaldwin was trying to say was that she wasn't a completely innocent victim of outrageously unreasonable parents like she is trying to portray herself as.
mjh said:
gibberellin said:
new207040 said:
sad on all levels as this will effect their relationship for a very long time, short sighted teenage decision making and all for what appears to be puppy love with a bad boy and teenage rebellion..
If you choose to have children, then one day you will have a teenager making short sighted decisions and teenage rebellion. Anyone who thinks otherwise is kidding themselves. Part of normal parenting is negotiating your way through this situation without throwing the kid out of the house for acting like what he/she is: a teenager.
You've said it much better than I did. Agree completely.
+1
But that is he said/she said. The girl says she was thrown out, the parents say she left on her own.
The line in the email about her having to win back the sister's trust is very telling to me. The issues seem to run deeper than her just having a boyfriend the parents don't like.
The line in the email about her having to win back the sister's trust is very telling to me. The issues seem to run deeper than her just having a boyfriend the parents don't like.
spontaneous said:
I think that what mbaldwin was trying to say was that she wasn't a completely innocent victim of outrageously unreasonable parents like she is trying to portray herself as.
Thank you. Just trying to round out the picture a bit.
calliope said:
dobler88 said:
She can finish high school. In public school.
agreed
She is not ENTITLED to a private school education---her actions had consequences, she didn't like the rules, so she has been excluded from her parents' largesse. It may not be a decision some of us may make as parents, but it is a legitimate parental decision. And the judge agreed.
^THIS!
Twitter & FB blew up with this story. Seems like more people agree with the parents.
It's nice to know people can have such absolute clarity in their judgments when it comes to the the complexity of humans and human relationships.
And I think it's so sad that this thing has gotten SOOOO out of control. The family should have been in therapy, not a courtroom.
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I believe all that's left is a decision on the college tuition.